Hump Day Giveaway: Should Dimity Run NYC Marathon?

As The Clash so poignantly asked, Should I stay or should I go?

As with every job, there are ups and downs of being a sports + fitness writer. A down: average rates haven't gone up in some obscenely long time, like 50 years. Counter that with a huge up: perks, like an offer to run the New York City Marathon through Asics, sponsor of the race. I can't pay the bills with my race number, but I realize how special the opportunity is--and am inclined to capitalize on it.

Training starts on July 18th, which gives me over a month to continue to work on my core strength and make my body parts gel as strongly as the can't-budge hairdos I see on the fifth-grade boys. (A dab of product goes a long way, fellas.) Given how my 5ks have felt this week on the tour--not perfect, but definitely better--I'm confident my gimpy left leg and I are headed in the right direction.

Still, I'm on the fence.

On the one hand: A purpose! New York City! Marathon! Post-marathon glow and pride!

And on the other: Exhaustion. Potential.for.more.injury.

I put my sartorial fate in the hands of readers when deciding what to wear in the 2007 Nike Women's Marathon, and the black SkirtSports dress was an excellent choice. I'm sick of thinking about this decision, so I'm leaving this up to you too. If you've read RLAM, you can probably say yes or no without reading this post further. If you haven't, here's a short list of my NYC pros and cons:

New York City: Yay!

1. The momentum and energy I feel from the Run Like A Mother tribe, I'm confident, will carry me at least through mile 20. I've never felt as inspired and motivated in my life as I do now.

2. Plain and simple: I want to. I want the routine of a training plan, the satisfaction of putting an "x" through a workout. I haven't felt that order and crispness in almost six months and miss it.

3. I'm having baby lust, but rationally know we're not the Bradford Family: Two is Enough. Marathon training might tide me over until the craving passes.

4. I'm ready to believe in my body again. I'm ready to make it so strong and capable that even 26. 2 is possible.

5. More importantly, I'm committed to doing the work to make it bombproof. I'm already envisioning a training schedule that has me running 3 days a week, max, with some serious time on the trails and bike trainer. The bike in the basement worked pretty well for the 2007 Nike Women's Marathon: pedaling nowhere healed my stress fracture, kept my legs fresh and made my legs and lungs super strong.

6. I haven't run any other major marathon, so I can't say this unequivocally, but I'm pretty sure the crowds that line five-burough course are the best in the world. When I ran it in 1997, it poured almost the entire day, but people stood there, unfazed, sopping, cheering and high-fiveing and generally making every runner felt like they could win. No other race has made my effort feel so worth it.

7. Un-running-centric reasons, but compelling nonetheless : NYC is also home to two of my best friends and plenty of editors with whom I'd like to visit. (And maybe, ahem, discuss those plateau'd rates.) Oh, and I can also schedule some RLAM stops. Always a bonus.

New York City: Nay!

1. When I crossed the line in 2007, I promised myself never again. Those last 6 miles were beyond brutal. I'm pretty sure that was because my longest training run was 16 miles, but still. I like to think I'm the type that keeps promises.

2. Even with my best intentions to stretch, foam roll, do that library-shhhhh!-on-steriods breath of Pilates until I'm sure my innards are basically shrink-wrapped, my body still might not cooperate. That's a downward spiral--and situation--I know I can't handle.

3. I know my husband isn't up for my training if it becomes an injury-plagued grind. And I'm pretty sure my kids feel the same way.

4. I think I want to. One minute, I'm sure it's the best idea ever. The next, I'm fondly reminiscing about hitting the snooze button, which I've been doing more often than not lately, and, when I finally get a sports bra on, making up a workout on the fly.

5. Fretting about not being in bed by 9 on a Friday night, so I can get up early to run long on Saturday. The interminable wait for bedtime on Saturday, when 8 p.m. feels like midnight.

6. According to my once-a-decade schedule, I'm not slated for another 'thon until 2017.

So, what do you think? Yay or nay? What compels you to run a marathon--or take on a challenge that seems pretty freakin' massive? Are you always 100% in when you commit? Please share your honest thoughts.

Let me know, and a random winner will win, of course, a free pair of Asics. IfΒ  Asics, the brand of shoes most often seen on marathoner's feet, can get me into a marathon, they can easily get you through one--or any other running adventure--too.

184 responses to “Hump Day Giveaway: Should Dimity Run NYC Marathon?

  1. Go for it! Make this your best NYC ‘thon yet! You are a runner and you love the excitement of NYC and the opportunity to (like mothers do) multi-task (run the race, ask for the increase, visit friends). You will have so many checkmarks off your “to do” list, and what’s better than that??? You won’t regret it once you are there and you get that finisher’s glow. You might regret not going. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain (as cliche as that is, sorry). Enjoy it and let us know all about it!


    Live life with no regrets! In 2017 there will be other excuses!

    I have been following you and Sara for as long as I can remember and you have both inspired me (and the 170 something posters before me!)!

    Keep up the good work and we will all be here to root for you!


  3. two ‘thons in a decade….I dont’ think that is too much to ask of yourself. challenge yourself to do it WITHOUT maing your family hate you……good luck!

  4. Do it!!!! What a great opportunity. I’m starting to train for my first marathon (Nike SF) in October and I’m so dreading all the long hours and big commitment away from my family. But then again, I’m looking forward to it πŸ™‚ Running is really my only ME time. And it’s so hard but it feels SO good afterward. But you know that already. I love running because it makes me feel like a badass. πŸ™‚ And being asked to run the NYC Marathon by Asics makes you a serious badass. So I think you should throw caution to the wind and do it!! πŸ™‚

    1. OH and I read RLAM and loved it. AND I have two boys and having the same baby cravings you are. But I’m also using my marathon training as a distraction. I figure after the marathon in October, we can decide for sure. And maybe my baby craving will be done by then (I hope? πŸ™‚
      Good luck with your decision(s)!

  5. Yes. I think you should because I have yet to one and think that SOMEONE should be running long distances even if it’s not me. I would love to follow your training for it. So, really, it’s not about you, it’s all about me!

  6. Yes – run it. And here’s a quote that I keep on my bulletin board at work that says why: “The only runs I’ve ever regretted are the ones I didn’t do”.

  7. I can’t comment on whether or not you should but I can tell you I am rarely 100% when I send in my registration! But the sheer fact that I paid that money and signed up can guarantee that I’ll train and be ready!

  8. YOU SHOULD DO IT> And btw, you are difinitely a celebrity among runners, and this is one of the perks of being a celeb! so take it! I will cheer for you in Bay Ridge, Brooklyn!

  9. Yes! And this includes the selfish reason that i live outside of NYC and I can come see you at some RLAM event or reading.

  10. OHHH you should run NY, I want to run that one so badly.. that one just sounds amazing. What makes me pick a race…location, desire and others I might able to meet while running there…yeah I make them vacations!

  11. Interesting dilemma. I can easily relate to all your pros and cons. Similarly, on the one hand, I love free and love the thought of weekends away doing something I love doing. On the other hand, the amount of time and energy it takes to train, the stress and burden on the rest of the family, negates many of the positives. I’ve done one marathon: pre-kids and while I admire and respect all of those moms who do marathons while their kids are young, it doesn’t work for me with taking so much time for me to train. I’ve found joy and accomplishment in half marathons and 10ks and small tris and still make it to every baseball game. My kids still see me running and since I don’t get up at ungodly hours to run, I’m not away for too long of runs burdening my non-running husband. I figure in a few more years even though I will be older and slower, my kids will understand more about why I want to run and run far.
    It seems like you maybe just need to flip a coin and be happy with whatever decision you choose.

  12. Do it!!!! (Shouts the girl who has lost the lottery three years in a row (yay for 2011!!) and only has one infant to take care of while she trains for an undetermined fall marathon.)

  13. YES!! I have been to New York once and Loved everyminute of it. I was not a runner then but I long to return with my new Asics from this Giveaway! To run in Central park and a long the water. Sounds like HEaven

  14. Reading your pros and cons, it sounds to me you already made up your mind. I say go for it – just listen to your body and if it becomes an injury plagued nightmare- just stop (I know that will be the hardest part).

  15. “I’m already envisioning a training schedule that has me running 3 days a week, max, with some serious time on the trails and bike trainer.”

    Sounds like you’re already on the “yes” side of the spectrum: Do it and don’t look back. NYC? Marathon? Training in the beautiful fall months (ahem, and a certain KK would come down and do long runs with you)? NYC? What more could you ask for?

    You’d better polish your little black running dress.

  16. I think you should go for it but have fun with it and not shoot for a PR. You mentioned you’re craving some order and the satisfaction that comes from having a schedule and this would definitely do it. With regards to injury concerns, you could always have a session or two with a physical therapist and talk to him/her about your concerns and injury history so they could custom make you a stretching/conditioning program to help avoid/minimize issues.

  17. Yes–I spent much of the winter and spring training for the Avon 39-mile walk, and friends commented on how much time it took from my family. But it gave so much time to me, and I felt rejuvenated and energized by the experience. I say do it.

  18. I would say “YES”, I agree with everyone – your pros outweigh your cons. Plus, NYC- who wouldnt want to run that? It is NYC- if I am not mistaken isnt that a lottery race anyway. If you are a “shoe in”, no pun intended, I would go for it. I know you can do it!!! If you are recovered from your injuries and can take each day “one step at a time”- and be realistic GO FOR IT!!!!!!!

  19. I think you have made up your own mind with your 2nd “yay”. “Plain and simple” YOU WANT TO DO IT!!!!!! So I say do it, but do it for fun not a PR. This might help you train without injury and maybe a little more energy for “whinny kids”. πŸ™‚ lol
    You go girl!!!! I look forward to hearing about how your training is going!!!

  20. Run Dimity Run! This is the year for comeback marathoners. My best running friend is running NYC after deferring for injury last year. She tried to talk me into the whole thing but I will jump in for the last 10 miles.

    As for me, I haven’t bit off a marathon (and schedule wise this is not the year to do it), but I have taken on a race this year that I never thought I would run – a 10 miler in August that features my dreaded 3 H’s – hills, heat and humidity. Every other 10 miler around here is flat so it’s time to see how I do on the hills.

  21. Dimity…Dimity…Dimity……stop thinking about it and let the training begin! You know you want to, don’t you now, huh? HUH??? Refer to yay numero dos.

    Hey, I’m doing it and I’m your oldest, lamest, non-athlete, non-runner, type friend to be out there… Imagine, we could be on Team Asics together (BTW, Could I please win those shoes. Forget the random part of the contest. Just pick my name. Thanks.) I’ll even let you borrow my walker if you get injured while training. Which you won’t … but, I’m just saying….

    How did the midwest go? Hope it was great!!

  22. I hate to be the only one who’s negative, but here goes. I love the idea. However, I’ve been a long time reader of your blog and now RLAM, and given that your propensity to have injuries (and trouble recovering from them) is like Sarah’s propensity to be competitive, I’d be a little hesitant if I were you. You might really set yourself back, which as you know can be very depressing.

    Now, having said that, if you think you’re fully recovered and your IT Band can handle it, it sure sounds like fun. Although, you may regret it later.

    I ran a marathon on only three days a week running. I did a ton of cross training on the bike. It was hard, but doable.

    Like I said, I like the idea, but I’d be very cautious. If you decide to do it, go for it with gusto, but grow to love ice baths and stretching like they’re your best friends!!

  23. I am a big believer in, why not?! If you can do it, which I absolutely believe you can, why not do it? Yes, there are a billion excuses why you can’t/shouldn’t/don’t want to, your book is exactly why there are so many of us out there that are.

  24. I say YES. Get out there and train wisely. Listen to your body. If you start to feel an injury coming on, address it. If you ultimately can’t run due to injury (or pregnancy!), then it wasn’t meant to be, but at least you gave it a shot.
    That said, if you make it through the training and get to run the NYC Marathon for Asics, what an amazing experience! You are a shining example for the rest of us running mothers, and more importantly, for your kids. πŸ™‚ Get out there and have some fun! We will be cheering for you!

  25. Do it! Sounds like you have a lot of experience & lessons learned from the last one. This marathon could put the demons behind you for good.

    Plus all of these RLAM-ers will keep you accountable!

  26. Of course you should! I enjoyed meeting you today and especially loved getting to meet some other moms in Chicago who gave me such motivation to try my hardest to do a half in Sept after I give birth next week! Everyone gave me realistic insight into how to do it but not get down on myself if I am not able to.
    Back to why you should run NY- since you have inspired so many of us with your book, think of all the hundreds of cheerleaders in all of us cheering you on! πŸ™‚ good luck!

  27. ok Dimity…I just skimmed all the posts–looks like 145 yays to 3 nays, so looks like you’re in! just for the sake of completeness (and to get my chance at free Asics–my brand πŸ˜‰ I vote yay too! think of all the lovely RLAM readers across the country who will be with you in spirit every step of the way; NY is a once in a lifetime opportunity (we’re not getting any younger as they say); and what’s the best kind of marathon?–a free one! DO IT!

  28. Yes! If you think you are ready and you want to, you should go for it. There are not many times in your life that you feel you will be ready for such an endevour. So, I say go for it!! Plus, as a RLAM junkie, I can enjoy the journey with you…don’t think I will ever do a full marathon.

  29. The training with a purpose pro is the one that strikes me hardest. I struggle with why race at all and the structured disciplined training is why I end up registering.

    So, I’m saying yes. But only if you are being honest that you think your body is up to it.

    And, either way, we are cheering you on.

  30. Oh and by the way, I promise to have a sign somewhere along the course for you…around mile 22 to say thank you for doing this for those of us who did not get a lottery ticket!!!

  31. (I also put this on facebook)

    I am so jealous you could run the NYC. I tried to get a lottery entry, so that I could run it with my guaranteed entry by time husband! ( He is a 2:53 marathoner at Boston)

    I have never done more than halfs but wanted to go big, if I was going to do a marathon. We honeymooned in NYC about the same time as the marathon, and I had this fantasy…run a marathon with the husband to celebrate our anniversary…too bad…I did not get a lottery entry!! So, I am jealous that you have the chance to run it! So just do it! Do it for those of us who cannot, even if we wanted to!

  32. The way I usually sort these things out (other than crowd sourcing my answer :-)) is to imagine I’ve said no — what is the first response I have? In this case, are you relieved or disappointed? I’m guessing the latter based on your pros and cons. In fact, most of your cons are already answered in the earlier body of the post!

    The impact of an online community of faithful supporters cheering on your training might make for an interesting subject for another story, contrasting the Nike training with the NYC training.

    Of course, if your immediate reaction to imagining saying no is one of relief, this may not be the time. And that’s OK, too. If RLAM has taught me anything, it’s that the purpose of running is to be better in the fullest sense — and sometimes that means going against our supermom natures and being a bit more merciful with our selves.

  33. My vote is for yes!!!!! NYC Marathon is on my bucket list and it will be fun to live vicariously through you (no pressure of course). You know the downfall of the marathon and you can plan for it. Give the bod a little extra TLC to help prevent injuries and mentally train for the last 6 miles which are ALWAYS brutal. I don’t think you will regret it if you do. What a great opportunity.

    On a side note, I loved your reading at Magers and Quinn in Mpls. I was great meeting you. You are such an inspiration.

  34. I don’t even have to read the post to say no. I feel like every time I hear from you it is about an injury. Take it easy this year, get strong, go to yoga, strength train, eat healthy, cross train, sleep well, and shoot for big goals next year. Maybe race an Olympic distance triathlon. The cross training will save your a$$.

  35. Haven’t read all the comments closely, but I’m wondering, has anyone said no, don’t do it? Do it, Dimity! I’m training for a fall marathon and I was not 100% committed at the start (still not, if I’m being honest). What helped me make my decision was to think how I would feel next year if I didn’t do the marathon this year. And what I would say to myself would be, “Dang! I should have trained for that marathon last year!” You don’t regret the things you do, you regret the things you didn’t do!

    Something I tell myself: “Nobody said it would be easy, they just said it would be worth it!”

  36. I say yes…because although your no column is all reasonable, there is excitement in your yes column. Also, here is the thing. If I could run a marathon as a gimpy cancer survivor that watched the rest of her pace group get further and further away during our training runs (which meant that I spent most of the rest of the run in tears)—you can run another marathon. πŸ™‚ Go Dimity!!!!

  37. I say go for it – don’t plan to PR, just train and enjoy. NYC Marathon sounds great, you loved it, you know you did. And maybe it will be sunny and 50 this time.

  38. Go for it!!!!I I feel exactly the same way you do and I decided to do it one more time, running MCM. The injuries & Friday nights suck, but after you cross the finish line it’s all worth it. Try the FIRST training plan, it’s excellent, and do one 22 mile run if you can.

  39. Run NY! I ran my first half in April, and just picked RLAM up at Border’s last week. Enjoying everything I’ve read so far, and considering Portland 26.2 in 2011!

  40. Totally do it! Isn’t there a saying that you rarely regret the runs you do, but always regret the ones you don’t?

    Hey wait, I think I read that in this great book I picked up, “Run Like a Mother.” It’s excellent, and I tell all my running friends about it. πŸ˜‰

  41. You always regret the road not taken – so the real question is which can you deal with better, hating the next three months or forever wishing you had chosen the 3 hateful months?

  42. Yes! Yes! Go for it!! You will be my inspiration! No pressure!! Ha! Ha! I just did a 10k in Annapolis, MD and am debating a 1/2 marathon in September. I have been weighing it all week! THis is the 1st time in 39 yrs that I have ever been excited about anything related to exercise and competition.
    Go for it!!!

  43. You definitely should run! As a mother of a four year old and two year old twins , running is my savior. Your book and blog are inspiring and I hope to follow your training!

  44. How awesome to have an opportunity like this! I commend you for being realistic enough to do a pro and con assessment of the offer, although coming from someone (me) who did not get into the lottery, it would be completely un-run-worthy of me to say anything other than “RUN, Dimity, RUN!” I’m jealously supportive πŸ˜‰

  45. I vote YES!!! From your pros – you’re inspired, motivated and you want to – and it’s free. I don’t think it gets any better than that! Some of your cons will be cons no matter when you do your next marathon – the training always gets tedious, for runner and family, and there are always mornings when you want to hit snooze (even if you’re not training for a marathon). You have been running well, you have the itch to do it again – I think you should go for it. I have had tons of problems with my left leg (stress fx, ITB issues, hip issues) in the past two years and have kind of followed your progress and struggles through the years as they’ve been similar to mine. I’m 6 weeks away from my next marathon right now and my leg has been much better than I thought it would be – BUT I have been doing core exercises and PT after every run, religiously. I know it sucks to set a goal and get injured, but you’ve been doing so well and you seem mentally/emotionally ready for the challenge. I say go for it!

  46. Just started reading your book, and I am new to running…the selfish part of me says “Yes, please!” I’d love to follow your journey from beginning to end!


  47. You should totally do it, Dimity! I’ve never run NYC, and I would love to hear about it from your perspective and live vicariously through you. I know you can do it. And since the Richmond Marathon which I’m training for is also in November, we can train virtually side by side.

    And if for no other reason, think of the shopping posibilities post-race! If you start paying yourself to run again, you can really make this into a trip to remember.

  48. You had me convinced at “I WANT TO” – I think this is the power to your decision. Do it for all of us who can only dream of running that race! DO IT!

  49. This is a good one! I loved reading all of the other responses becauase I am in a similar situation. I registered for the MCM this fall but am coming off of injuries and am unsure what to do. Plus my hubby and I would like to have another baby. So, do I skip the MCM to wait to make sure I am 100% back from my stress fracture (and possibly have a baby), or do I go for it and run the MCM? It would be my first marathon and I WANT to run it, but am not sure if this is the time.

    I am excited to read what you decide. I say Go For It Dimity! I think you pro list far outweighs your cons!

  50. Do it!!! Do.It. DO. IT. Life is for living–not waiting. Reading through your “yay” reasons got me excited FOR you. Those “nay” reasons could weigh us down for any race–regardless of length. What an incredible opportunity–one that may not come again! And, honestly, who knows what could happen between now and 2017 right?

  51. How can you pass this up? Sounds like a blast. By the way, I’m a 6’4″ running mom, too, and it’s nice to discover another tall runner. I have a 5-year old son. I haven’t run a marathon since he was born, but I don’t make my living at fitness. . .

  52. Absolutely YAY! This is an amazing oppertunity, at an amazing race, to do things differently than in ’07. You’ve had 3 years to mull it over. Time for some Action! You Go Girl! (and I can live vicarously through you!)

  53. Do it for the crowds, the experience, the high you will feel afterwards…no worries about time/pace, just enjoy it……I voted yes for the little black dress a few years ago and got that one right so you need to listen to me now too πŸ™‚

  54. I think the decision to run a marathon (or 10K or half-marathon, whatever) is ultimately a family decision. You have to feel that your body, your schedule, and your family are up for the challenge. Once you weigh all that, my next advice is pray. Is that where you’re supposed to be at that point? I don’t know. But that’s how we decided to run the half-marathon in September.

    If you want to run in a marathon in September, I highly recommend the Omaha marathon in Nebraska. Mostly because I’d love to meet you. LOL

  55. Don’t think about it anymore…just do it!! And take me with you please please! I would kill for the chance to run NYC…..

  56. Dimity-you should so run in the NYC marathon!! The injuries you’ve had will be okay and it would be well worth your time to run in an elite race!

  57. Do it Dimity, do it! The shortage of long runs leading up to your last marathon effort alone would’ve meant the ouch on the last 6 miles. Just get your long runs in and we’ll cheer you on come race day!

  58. I say go for it! Your pros sounded much stronger than the cons. And you’ll be glad you did when you finish the marathon (even if, at the same time, you say never again…again). Good luck!

  59. I say yes go for it! It is a great opportunity and you don’t want to look back and regret not doing it do you? BUT on one big condition: that you husband is 120% behind you and make him sign a contract !!! If he says “do whatever you want” that is not good enough.

  60. I purposely did NOT read any other response so I could give you my fresh 10 cents… do it. When I read your pros, they JUMPED at me. Your cons, well, they all seem to point to YOU NEED TO GET A GOAL. Pressing the snooze button and doing whatever for your workout means you need to get pumping a long and have direction. You’ll lose that slacker feeling really quick.

    Of course, the injury stuff is totally legit – I’ve been struggling with my own for far too long, but with careful and purposeful training, (add swimming!!) you’ll do fine. Don’t go for time, go for the experience. GOOD LUCK

  61. I say go for it!! I recently read a book called “A Race like No Other” about the NY marathon. Very inspiring! Makes my ALMOST want to run it!! As fir me, I’m sticking with halfs!

  62. Which choice makes you feel secretly disappointed in the middle of the night? I have a feeling then you’ll know what risks are worth it. πŸ™‚

    (I second the ‘ask your husband’s advice’, too… that is always smart since he will help pave the way.)

  63. Having just completed my first ever HALF marathon and pretty much deliberated over a very similar list of yays and nays, I say GO FOR IT! My fourteen year old daughter tipped the scales for me. She put it in simple terms: I would only regret it if I did NOT do it. Yes, I was accused of being a bit obsessive about training; yes, I was accused of being a bit crabby and impatient from the fatigue of training. But NO, I will never regret setting my goal, repeat MY goal, and achieving it. So I say DO IT, DO IT, DO IT! You only go this way once!

  64. Diminty, I just finished reading (and then re-reading) RLAM. Thanks for all that you and Sarah put into that book. I truly felt like you were coming alongside me. “You can do it!” resounded from both of you. I am a mom of a dozen children, now training for my first sprint triathlon!

    That being said, in reference to your question I would encourage you to ask your husband what he thinks. I have found that my husband is really fabulous at “knowing me better than I know myself” and is close to the situation, but further removed than I am. In addition, when he says “Yes! Go for it!” I know that I will have his 100% backing in whatever I am tackling.

    Whatever you decide I’ll be cheering you on!

    Thanks for the book and for the chance to win the shoes~ that’d be awesome!

  65. I’m going to go with the masses here, Dimity! I’m voting YES! Do it while you can! Do it because you can! Do it so you won’t always wonder ‘what if’… You could get injured tomorrow NOT training for it… sometimes in life, you have to believe in your abilities more than you fear them! Remember all the cons and try to make them work better this time! You can do it!!!!!
    AND I think you knew we’d vote yes, so I think you really want it! πŸ™‚ So we want it for you!

  66. I don’t see what the problem is. When someone hands you a free trip to NY you say YES first and figure the rest out later. No one’s saying you have to FINISH the race (though you know you will). And they’ll be handling all the logistics. That alone is pretty priceless, isn’t it?

  67. Reading your post gave me a sense that your gut is telling you to do it! And that’s what mine says, too, on your behalf. I say GO, Dimity, GO!

  68. I say go for it! I read this quote on a facebook update yesterday (not sure I have it right or who to attribute it to) “You NEVER regret the runs to did, but you usually regret the runs that you did not do.” (ok so that is probably not an exact quoting but you get the idea).

    Years down the road will you be able to live with the “what if’s”? If the answer is no, go for it!

  69. Definitely yes. Even though it’s a huge commitment and a drain on your family time – sometimes you have to do something just for you.

  70. Yes, definitely you should run the NYC marathon. Whenever I find myself in a situation where I want to give up (ie: marathon training, working on my PhD dissertation), I always think to myself, “What will I tell my children? Will I tell them I just gave up? That it was too hard? That I found so many excuses? Wouldn’t I rather tell them about how I tried my hardest to make something happen?”
    This is an opportunity not to be missed. Go for it.

  71. Yay.

    And that’s not just me saying it because NYC is a far-off-pipe-dream for me (since I’m starting my first marathon training program this week)… Nor is it because my trusty old 2140s just packed it in on my last long run and I’m coveting the pair that’s up for grabs.

    It’s just that I see the pros more as reasons and the cons more as excuses. I understand fear of injury and putting family through a less-than-pleasant time, however, you’ve been there before so you’re more prepared to deal with it if it happened again. But I’ll call BS (sorry) on #6 – there’s no saying that you won’t have the exact same fears, etc. in 7 years and then push yourself harder because you won’t break that promise to yourself. A little harsh, but just something to think about…

    Since it’s a free opportunity, if you aren’t 100% sure about running (and I don’t know if this would totally go against your runner’s mentality) why don’t you consider walking (or run/walking) it? There’s still a fair amount of training involved and your time would probably be a PW, but you might just find that you’ll meet a whole different class of athlete at the back of the pack. πŸ™‚

    My reason for training to run a marathon was that I wanted to have another baby, but wanted to do something just for me before we expanded our family. However, my husband and I have both caught the running bug and keep finding races we want to do… it turns out that marathons are a pretty efficient birth control! Now I’m running for me since I enjoy seeing the changes that it’s made in my life – I’m better for having made a goal for myself – I’m no longer “just a stay-at-home-mum”.

    I had to laugh at “Are you always 100% in when you commit?” No. Plain and simple, no. I can come up with the lamest excuses for not going on a run (PMSy hormonal, don’t want to take stroller out in downpour, butt hurts from bootcamp, etc.). The problem is that my husband calls me on it and then I feel like crap the next day knowing that the only person I let down was me. I guess that’s going to have to change this week or 10.10.10 in Victoria isn’t going to happen for me…

    Enough of the long comment… Ultimately it’s up to you, not us, but you know that already.

  72. Dimity – I think your heart wants to. I think you should graciously accept and plan for an amazing marathon. Take it easy, but DO IT.

    You and Sarah inspire me. I think of you guys before I head out on my runs. I loved running before I got married, but after the kids came, I thought my body wouldn’t let me run again. It still gives me grief, but I DID start up again. I love the feeling of running. I can run 8Ks and 10Ks. I wish I could run faster and longer, but I will take what I can get. My “present” to myself this summer is enrolling in the training team for the 1/2 Marathon in Nov. in Richmond. I’m scared, nervous, EXCITED! To borrow a conversation from The Biggest Loser show recently; “What if I go out there and I can’t do it?” “But what if you go there and find that you CAN?” And this woman found she COULD do it. And I want to find out that I CAN. AND YOU CAN, TOO.

  73. Barring injuries, it will be worth it. I too, swore that I was never running a marathon again. Now, typing with my (almost) 3-month-old on my lap, having just run to the library and back with the double jogger and a pile of books, I can tell I’ll be running one again in the next few years. Honestly, what’s better than knowing you finished? Do it (and have fun)!

  74. Do it! Some ideas about the long runs and associated fatigue (and you may very well know this, but just in case): I find that a 16wk program is too short for me (and I know you have more like 20wks to go). I need to ramp up my long runs super-slowly, perhaps not increase mileage for a week or two here and there, perhaps scale back for a week and then ramp back up again a little at a time. I find that if I increase mileage very gradually, my body adjusts and the fatigue associated with the long run goes away. So I end up running long runs most of the year, but they don’t really feel like a big deal. I can just go about my day as usual. Slow and steady wins! πŸ™‚

  75. Go for it! But…pledge to listen to your body. I think your 3-day a week plan is solid and do-able with a busy family schedule.

    I’ll be running NYC this year too!

  76. YES, run it!! Mainly because it’s something so far out of reach for me to ever do, but I’d love to “know” someone who is doing it! Isn’t that a good enough reason?!

    Whenever I decide to do something of these sorts (albeit a much shorter distance…) I’m almost never 100% committed. Heck, on race day, I probably still wouldn’t call myself 100% committed because as a mother, with a job and a husband (and house, dog, etc, etc, etc) there are always things that are a higher priority and are more important. But, I always remind myself that this one thing is for me and as much as training hurts or that big hill hurts during the race, you’re already out there, and you’ve already done X amount of work, so you may as well keep on truckin’.

    I’ll be cheering for you from Texas if you decide to do it!

  77. I vote YES, run the marathon! If you have the desire and the opportunity, then you should do it. You have the support of many!!

    I put off running in races for some of the exact reasons you stated. None of my fears/doubts prohibited me to finish and complete my goals. Now, all I want to do is run and race.

    Leap and the net will appear.

  78. Oh my gosh, do it! It seems to me your cons are all fixable – training can take a toll but if you have the right motivation everything else will fall into place πŸ™‚

    But, I’m with you. I’m attempting to BQ again in October at the Long Beach Marathon and I just signed up today. I had that instant feeling of, “what did I just get myself into?” I always freak right before a marathon and never know why I keep going back until I cross that finish line and realize the accomplishment!

    New York has all the crowd support a marathoner could want. The bib is free, friends are there, having a schedule is really nice. You have a lot of positive pros, while many of your cons are fear based. You are not a woman who lives in fear! Go for it! See where the training takes you and enjoy it!

  79. As Nike so eloquently puts it, “Just Do It”!

    My marathon last year was at a race I’d only tentatively committed to running. Even my final long run of 22 miles was done with the thought, “I’ll do the marathon if I feel like it”. I waited to register for the race until the last minute and even when I did, I wasn’t entirely sure I’d show up.

    I ran a PR at that marathon by over seven minutes. Sometimes, the most successful races are the ones with the least fanfare.

  80. RUN IT!!! I’ve only run one marathon and made a similar promise to myself, that I would NEVER do it again (even though in the back of my mind, I know it’s only a matter of time). After my first marathon, I was proud and felt so accomplished. I thought, “I was pretty fast, I bet I qualified for New York.” Well, I would have qualified if I was 60 years old (I was 27 at the time). So to contradict my previous promise, I made myself another promise: If I ever got an opportunity to run the New York Marathon (be it unexpected athletic advancement or some other way) I would accept and do my best!!
    The oppoturnity is there. Fate has spoken!!

  81. Yay! Train smart, as you outlined, and be willing to back-off if you get hurt. Otherwise, it sounds like you really want to do this!!

  82. I think that promise to yourself about I’ll never do another one of these, is like that promise you make to yourself while you are in labor with your first kid. Then you go into labor with your second kid and are like “oh-yeah, that’s why I said I’d never do it again”.

    My rule of thumb is this–>will you regret it if you don’t take this opportunity? If you would even one smidge of an ounce think you would regret it, then you need to run it. If you can live with yourself if you don’t run it, than its okay to skip.

    If you’re just looking for a vote, mine is to do it. Its NYC baby! Come on! You know how hard that sucker is to get into?

  83. Since paralysis by analysis is my middle name, I probably shouldn’t chime in here, but…I think I’d probably go for it. I was all set to say no b/c of your injury, but if it seems like it’s headed in the right direction, there’s no harm in trying the training. Just give yourself the out to stop training for it if you are starting to hurt again. Good luck!

  84. Yes! Because in #2 I WANT TO says it all. At least start training for it and see how it goes. If you do get injured you can always back out, but if you don’t even try you may come to regret it. Nothing worse than regrets at missed chances in life.

    Thank you for inspiring us to take on more than we think we can do. Good luck!

  85. YES! I didn’t even have to read the pros and cons…but I did. Re-read #1-7 (especially #2 and #5) of the pros and then call up Asics and accept. As far as the cons…#1 doesn’t count…we’re moms, we’re allowed to change our minds. I said I would NEVER run…and here I am training for my first Half. and frankly, #2-6 are just lame. πŸ˜‰ Print them out, crumple it up and toss it in the trash on your way out the door to your first training run.

    As I type this I realize…you already have made the decision by posting this. You KNEW the RLAM team would NOT let you say no. So get on the phone already. And ask if they want to throw a few other mothers sponsored entries…or at the very least some new shoes…LOVE my 2140s…need some new ones. πŸ˜‰

    1. Oh, and by ‘lame’ I didn’t mean that you shouldn’t be diligent in protecting your body and your relationship with your family. I just meant that those are things you get through…you know how to protect your body. You know how to protect your family. By lame I meant they were just things you wrote down to have some cons. Now get on the phone!

  86. I think you can totally run the Marathon!! I think if you bombproof your training plan and listen to your body as well as make a great schedule to help balance family and training it is definitely possible! There are always what ifs with any risk or challenge but since you have already run a marathon you know what to expect and you know what to do to run better and stronger and cross the finish line!

  87. Go for it. The pros outweigh the cons. After 3 years of trying I finally got into NYC and would love to meet you.
    The thought of getting up at 3:30 a.m. to meet my running group 40 miles away for long runs on Saturday mornings in 100% humidity and 70-90 degrees, is enough to make me rethink. But I will run this race.
    Hope to see you there

  88. I say do it — Training for a big event like that keeps things regimented/scheduled and keeps you motivated. I just finished marathon #2 and don’t have anything on my schedule until August. I wish I had something HUGE to work towards right now, so that I would keep up the mileage. Reward yourself along the way, after each long training run, to keep you encouraged throughout your journey! Pedicure, new running apparel, etc. Good luck!

  89. Hi Dimity
    I have to say DO IT! What an awesome opportunity! I think you have a great support team to cheer you on. Crossing the finish line will make all the pain, sweat, and tears worth it!
    It is a dream of mine to run NYC so maybe I am biased, but I think it is something you can’t pass it. I totally get your hesitation – you know how much of a commitment a marathon is having done it before. Maybe you can tell yourself you will do this one – and next summer you are going to Europe! or some other prize to push yourself.
    You are an inspiration to me, and so many other moms. I know you can do it and I will enjoy reading about your journey! πŸ™‚

  90. “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
    – Mark Twain

    Maybe getting knocked up is the thing that you are not inclined to do, maybe its NYC, maybe its both! My opinion is 80/20 ….

    80 – With support of your family and all the RLAM ladies behind you, you should do it! Not because Asics asked you, not because its free, but because YOU WANT TO! Think of the high afterwards!

    20 – As a woman who struggles with “no”, do not do it for Asics or for us. Do it because you want to and if you do not REALLY want to do it, than feel strong when you say, “thanks, but no thanks”, hit snooze and go back to bed πŸ™‚

  91. I have that new runner’s enthusiasm and so my opinion is to go for it! I would begin training for a full after my first half this month, but I’m trying to get pregnant so I guess it will have to wait. I know lots of people who feel like they never need to do a second marathon or even a second half, but I can see myself doing longer distances as soon as I get the chance. Good luck!

  92. OK, I haven’t gone through all of the comments yet, but based on what I have read, I know I’m in the minority here (AND I’ve never run a marathon, so I’m even more UN-qualified to answer), but I say yes . . . with conditions.

    Just like you will come up with a training plan to run 26.2, I think you also need to come up with a plan on how you’re going to deal with injury. Granted, you can’t predict what type of injuy may (or may not!) crop up, but I think it would be wise (and perhaps a good negotiating point with your hubby & kids) to identify a cut-off, drop-out, reschedule, WHATEVER, point where if there’s an injury brewing and it’s likely going to make you suffer more harm than good by continuing your training, you’ll agree — in advance — to stop training and tend to the injury. That way you avoid the stress and drama associated with an “injury plagued grind.”

    At the risk of sounding like a mom (ok, I’ll admit — I’m a mom!), it’s not like this is the last NYC marathon E.V.E.R.!! There will be others (annually, or so I’ve heard πŸ™‚ ), and it might be wise to shoot for a shorter distance — like a half! — before ramping back up to a full marathon. Unless, of course, there’s a specific reason that would make running this NYC marathon particularly special.

    As for baby lust, I can’t help you out there. After having twins, we ultimately decided to have a third (ok, ok — it was mostly my idea). There are days where I think she’s going to single-handedly do me in!! Maybe I should have trained for a marathon back in ’07 instead…..!

    Just my two cents.

    Good luck in whatever you choose — I’ll be cheering you on regardless!!

  93. Yes, I think you should do it. You may be looking at the wrong set of What ifs. What if you don’t get injured? What if you get stronger than you’ve ever been? What if the training program blesses your whole family? What if a whole new set of miracles enter your life as a result of saying “Yes, I’d love to?”

  94. Okay, Dimity, you’re polling a bunch of crazy running women to ask if you should run a marathon in New York City for free (no lottery entry application etc)? You know what the answer will be. Have a fabulous time!

  95. #2 on the pro side of your pros/cons list says it all: “I want to.” No other reason matters as much as this one. You want to, you will, and you’ll have the sweet side effect of a positive shiny glow. Go for it, girl!

  96. It sounds like you really want to and you also have compelling reasons why you should as well as great explanations of how you’d fit it into your life. Really, every time I think life can’t get any crazier, it does, and it always works out. So why not just go for it! Besides, there’s absolutely no shame in giving training a shot. If your body doesn’t cooperate, that’s the way it is and you can try again another time.

  97. nay.

    ditty– excuse the ma-ism, but the potential long term injury that you could cause your body is not worth it. you want to be standing up straight and walking in another 30 years right?

    you can run. you can go to nyc. but my vote is nay to putting your body through another marathon training.

    get knocked up instead.

  98. Three words: Y. E. S.
    Some wise person (I cannot remember their name) said that most regrets come from things we don’t do. What an amazing opportunity – do it! How exciting! I’m jealous.

  99. First of all, deep down you know you’re going to, so just break down and admit it to yourself. As a normal mom who often puts off the housecleaning and gardening to do the core work and runs, how awesome it would be if I could say to my husband, “But, honey, Asics has requested I do this race and so I must let some other things go.” It sounds a bit better than saying “honey, after the training is done and I have a post race glow, all the things I put off will get done.” I read Monday’s post with pure understanding about how running can form such strong bonds. Today I read your post with pure jealousy. How amazing to have the sponsor want you to do their race. If you don’t do it for yourself, do it for all of us “normal moms” out there that will never be given that opportunity!

  100. Do it Dimity! You obviously want to and that’s the hardest part of commitment. If your heart is there, your body will be fine and remember that it’ll be about the experience, the memory and the tingles and satisfaction you’ll get as the crowds cheer you on. You don’t ever want to look back and have woulda, coulda, shouldas… go, you’ve got the training plan in your head, enjoy the training and I bet you’ll have a memorable and amazing race. Who knows when NYC 26.2 opportunity will roll around again? So GO, seize it, and don’t look back. I mean, have you EVER regretted running a race? (I thought so.)

    These same thoughts motivated me to sign up for 2 races this summer. My training schedule won’t be perfect and they may not be PRs (but they might?), but I know that no matter what, I won’t cross the finish line and say, “crap…why did I sign up for that?”

  101. YES!!! Because you want to! And what a great opportunity to get the nudge to do something that you know you wanted to do eventually.

    Good luck with your training! πŸ™‚

  102. NYC is definitely on my bucket list. Free NYC would be on my dream list.

    I vote do it, mostly because you put your PROS in front of you CONS. So subliminally you already want to do it. Go Girl!

  103. I say go for it!! You’ve run others, so why NOT?? πŸ™‚ Once I commit to something, I really am in it 100%, or more. I will be running my first half marathon in just over 2 weeks, the Rock ‘n’ Roll Seattle. And I’ve signed up for 2 others, before even running one!! So is that 300% committed? LOL! AND I’m considering doing a full marathon before the end of the year. But for THAT I decided I better do at least one half before I sign on the dotted line πŸ™‚

  104. You are asking us – because you know the answer will be YAY! What group of women, many of whom have had a similar struggle, wouldn’t say GO DIMITY GO?!?! Go because you know it will be worth every single second of work, go because we are all 100% behind you and will help you get to the experience you want, go because you deserve a finish that makes you proud. The last six miles of 2007 are what you remember of your last – run an incredible NYC so you can basque in a finish that carries you (rather than drags) to your next! If there is a momentum that gets you there – it is the RLAM crew behind you! Make a plan that excites you, believe that you can do it successfully and let asics take care of the rest!

  105. Wow…tough question. I understand your problem. Although Addidas has never asked me to run a marathon for them (in my dreams though, of course), I did have to make a similar choice a few months ago. Much like you, I’d vowed never to run another marathon (unless I got fast and thought I could qualify:). I had two bad experiences. One with the wall, and one with a lingering injury, so I said I would NEVER run another.
    When my husband decided to do his first full on our 10th anniversary, I had to decide if I was going to let him go through that…. alone…on our day, or if I would join him. Well, to make a long story short, I decided to do it. I’m in the thick of it now. Twenty miler this week. I thought at this point I’d be cursing everything….kids, husband, running, and you know…the day I was born! Surprise….I’m loving it. I’m still enjoying every run.
    Not only did I promise never to run another marathon, but I also promised to never talk anyone else into running one either. I don’t want to be responsible for someone else’s pain again. I think I’m going to have to break that rule again too, and tell you to GO FOR IT!
    I will tell you to use the next 6 weeks wisely…I used the Jillian Michaels training program for the six weeks before I started official training. I gained a ton of total body strength, and I think it has helped a lot.
    Good luck with whatever you decide! It is awesome that you are putting it in our hands, but I think you knew what we would say….I think by putting it in our hands, you already made your choice to run:)

  106. I find myself contemplating a marathon in the winter. my pros and cons much like yours. I hate to start something I cannot finish. I f injury held me back honestly and dramatically it would devestate me. Let’s admit it though once some bones have been fractured muscle and tendons strained the chance s of that happening again are higher. So do we stop trying to hit goals, quit something that gives us pride. Or do we do what runners do and thats keep jumping or in some cases hobbling over hurdles. So to run or not to run that is the question!!! Remember your expectations are your expectations not someone elses!!!

  107. You get the “Go For It” vote from me. We’ll make it work. The kids will be in school during your serious mileage push in the fall, you can do runs in the pool throughout the summer to help you stay injury-free, etc. etc.
    Plus the thousands of RLAM-ers here will provide amazing support on those tough days, when I just can’t figure out the right thing to say or do (It happens.).
    Grant, aka, Dimity’s husband

  108. I say yay! I failed to get into New York this year, a bittersweet disappointment as I won a place in the Nike Women’s Marathon instead. Still I spent 2006, 2007 and 2008 training for that darn race, and was forced to drop out due to illness, then injury, and finally ran it in 2008. I ended up paying over $500 in race entry fees just to get to the starting line in 2008, and it was worth every penny. So I say, go for it! If you don’t make it to the starting line, there is always next year!

  109. I say you need to go with your gut feeling, but from what I have read so far, I think it will pull you in the direction to do it!
    #2 stating…”Plain and Simple. I WANT TO” Right there gives it all away! I think in not doing it, you will regret it after the fact. You have a month to put together a great training plan, and I would very much work in the family time, wifey time that you are scared of losing.
    I am getting ready to start training for my first marathon, Chicago, in the next few weeks. I want to make sure that my training is a balance of family and running life. That way, half way in, I don’t regret my decision.
    I say go for it!

  110. Did seeing my baby last night put that extra baby lust in you? They are sweet but exhausting – probably as much as a marathon I would guess (I’ve never run one and have NO desire to). I like the reply that said do them both! If anyone can do it, you can!

  111. I completely agree with Erica’s first post. Your pros are concrete and real. You know that this will give you a purpose and make you feel amazing. The cons are a lot of “what ifs,” and we can’t live our lives that way! And I bet if you decide not to do it, you’ll be thinking “what if” the next few months. So DO IT!! We’ll all be there with you! (If not physically, then definitely in spirit!)

  112. yea, Dim! I’m weaseling out of saying yay or nay, but I think you should ask yourself what is the KINDEST thing you can do for yourself, your body, and your mind, and go with whatever answer the little voice inside your heads gives.

  113. It just seems like you want to more than you don’t want to.

    Now me? I’ve yet to run my first 5K, but I have little seeds of a dream of the idea of a half marathon already in my head.

    I say follow your gut!

  114. I am going to add to the chorus of yay’s – even if it is for completely selfish reasons! more than anything, i remember the feeling of satisfaction you had back in 1997 – imagine how that satisfaction will be magnified after all you have been through since then. just sayin…….

  115. Do it! I just finished a marathon 4 days ago, so the pain is fresh but the RUNNERS HIGH is lasting longer than the pain. They say undertraining is better than over training, so take a low key approach and run, not race it!

  116. I say go for it — but first, sit down with your hubbie and have a good chat, so that he can be fully supportive during your training process. The time commitment training involves does make family support a necessary item! You have to follow your heart. Running/training should be FUN!

    Picking a BHMG (big hairy monstrous goal) makes my life become more organized and focused. Once you pick that goal, register for the race, and put it on the calendar, then a lot of the other “stuff” you do (or choose to opt out of) each day serves a purpose in getting you one step closer to accomplishing that BHMG.

    Another trick? Put your training schedule down, in writing, and post it on the wall for all in your household to see. That way there are no scheduling surprises for your family members, and you are also held accountable for what workouts you are supposed to be doing each day.

    Best wishes – can’t wait to hear how this goes for you.

  117. Well, you already KNOW what I’m going to say, since we talked about it in Chicago last night on your RLAM tour 5K====but I do have to say one more thing. Your pros definitely outweigh your cons.

    Also, I think you’re just asking all of us this question so that you can have more support in the decision you sort of, kind of, a little bit have already made (to run it).

    You can always take it easy in the marathon, go to have FUN and experience it all. The training, if you do the whole ‘focused training runs’ as opposed to ‘junk miles’ will be more fun as well. If you decided to train with run/walk intervals on your long long runs (maybe, for you, an 8:1 ratio, meaning 8 minutes of running, one of walking briskly), they’d help you with injury prevention as you get into the higher mileage (which is why we have all of our new marathoners train that way).

    I say: GO FOR IT!!

  118. You have inspired many to push themselves to be better, go farther and that we are all strong enough to do whatever we put our minds and hearts too. If your heart says yes follow it to the finish line. I used to make lists of pros and cons too but since reading your book and all the comments the other RMs make I only make pro lists. I say GET IT DONE!!! You have and unstopable army of RMs running with you even from 1000 miles away when you get tired we will be there cheering you on those last 6 will be your best. Good Luck ! I can’t wait to read all about it!

  119. Sounds like you are craving structure. I would go for it. Run it for fun, not necessarily to PR. I think that when an opportunity presents itself, just do it. A free marathon, sign me up!

    Also, what was your first gut reaction? Usually that is what you’ve wanted to do all along.

    P.S. My fifth baby is 14 months old. So my window of completely a marathon is now before that baby lust gets too loud. =)

  120. Dimity, I think that you should go for it! Otherwise you will have that what-if feeling for at least a few years plaguing you. If you start the training and your injury begins to bother you, you can always make a revised decision then. I say you should do it! Best of luck:)

  121. This is so hard! I ran San Antonio in November (my 2nd) and said never again but now the thoughts are creeping back in. I think if I had a chance to run New York I’d do it. I’ve heard THE BEST things about New York. It’s fun, scenic, amazing!
    So my vote is: Do it! Who knows, maybe another book will come out of the journey.

  122. I’m a very recent adopter to RLAM as my (first) 6 week old daughter is currently wiggling her fanny off on the couch, cooing her brains out and being terribly perplexed by All! These! Appendages! and I finally scoped out the website and read today’s post…

    That being said, I also wanted to share that I ran two miles this morning.

    Who cares, right? Two miles. Whoooopededoo!

    But they’re *my* two miles. I stared at my shoes during my warm up walk and thought how shiny they were in the street lights and that it was kind of cool. That I’d be tired when I got back but that it would abate my daily new mother panic attack because I did it. I have a little bit of chub rub on my left thigh because I still have 20 pounds to lose but guess what… I have chub rub because I got up and moved.

    I may never get back to the half marathon I was at before baby and that makes me a little sad. But I want to prove to myself, to other people, and especially to other mothers that I can do something. That it’s possible. That I am breakable, weak, scattered… and yet stronger, more determined, and head down watch-me-prove-you-wrong focused. I think you represent that for a lot of people. I think that’s what your book has meant to me. I’m on chapter 14 and on a couple of days, your book is the only reason I told myself I *could* go outside and run. Slow and kind of chubby, but I could run.

    So that all being said… I think you should do it. I think you should *try*. If nothing else to learn from it… see if it’s everything the Nike run was before and if you walk any part of it, or finish the last 6 thinking that the bagel you had for breakfast 2 months ago is somehow still haunting your stomach contents at this. very. moment… Well then, you’ll know. You’ll be confirmed. Yes your body might fail you but it could do that walking into a salon. Twist an ankle when you go to get highlights and BLAMMO race training is over. But do it for the goal. Do it to learn. Do it to try. Just… dig in an do it. You’ll be proud that you did and that no one can take your effort from you.

  123. Given the very cool opportunity – I say START TRAINING! Of course, I always want options – so, can you back out if you enter the “injury-plagued grind” ? Good luck!

  124. As someone who is only beginning this crazy world of running, I can’t even begin to think of running a marathon. But for someone who is seasoned in the world of running/marathons, how could you turn it down? What a challenge, a goal to work for, and a sense of pride. One day when you are looking back you can say, …”Been there – done that.” How many people can say that? I spent the last year dropping 40+ lbs., through eating better and walking. On the spur of the moment, (with 3 weeks of training), I ran my first 5K on Memorial Day – it was such a rush, such a challenge and I LOVED how I felt (my time didn’t matter to me so much as finishing the race). Since that first 5K (have already signed up for another one at the end of the month), I have been researching and trying to train and be better prepared to beat my last time. Marathon… not for me right now, but for you, absolutely! Good luck with whatever you decide.

  125. Go for it! You never know what tomorrow will bring, so it’s best to take advantage of our opportunities when they arise.

  126. Good heavens, woman! Do it! If you wait until the stars are aligned and it’s convenient for everybody and you’re 100% healthy (what’s that like, anyway?) and blah blah blah, it will Never Happen.

    You say you’re on the fence but you put this decision to a bunch of, you know, Runners. What did you think we’d say? No, Maybe Not, Better Take It Easy?


    What compels me to take on a marathon? Because digging in and gutting it out from Day 1 of training through the post-finish hobble makes me more than just a wife, mother, daughter, sister, employee, friend. It keeps the Me in me. Because it’s hard, but it’s a hard I choose and not a hard I’m handed. Because there’s nothing like sitting in an ice bath, beer in one hand, good book (but not The Good Book) in the other, both kids standing there agog at the cubes floating in the water, feeling so satisfied that I just pushed the heck out of myself.

    1. Paige C,
      I am copying your post and pasting it somewhere for when I’m lacking in marathon training motivation! You nailed it, I think.

    2. “Because it’s hard, but it’s a hard I choose and not a hard I’m handed. ”

      Now that says it all!!!

  127. Seeing as I am but a mere treadmill-running newbie, I cannot personally understand the mental and physical toll this training takes on anyone, let alone a mom. However, number 2 on your pro list really said it all, didn’t it? You want to. If you let it pass you by you may have regrets. Regrets suck. Plus, you have all of us RLAM readers to cheer you on. I, for one, would LOVE to follow your training on the blog. I’d love the inspiration. I’m thinking 5k, not marathon. But, MAN, you ladies make me think maybe, someday.

  128. I can’t even answer the question of yes or no for myself, and I’m signed up to run Chicago in October, plus training begins (at least according to my 16-week plan) in two weeks. I haven’t run in a whole week. A week! And I’m not even injured.

    Anyhow, my pro/con list looks a lot like yours (yes, I know, I’m signed up so there’s no need for a pro/con list!). I’m not struggling with any injuries, but I also don’t know how appealing I’m finding the idea of long training runs in the heat of summer, plus the time it takes away from kids/family, etc. I’ve got a RW training plan that starts out at four days a week then goes down to three days a week when mileage climbs, so I think to myself: Surely I can manage three days of running a week? Surely I can carve out this small bit of time for myself?

    Like you, I am feeling baby lust lately. I don’t know. Training for a marathon (to me, at least) seems like a good way to reclaim my own identity now that the kids don’t need me as much. I guess in the end, I’m fairly certain that I’ll enjoy the benefits of the training (still need to drop about 10 pounds, and I’m hoping marathon training will help) and the race itself. But I know I’ll regret not running. Maybe that’s the question you need to ask yourself. Will you regret not running more than you’ll regret the early wake-up calls and so forth?

    Good luck!

  129. hmmm, tough one. I’ve done 3 marathons and have switched to 1/2s due to family/work obligations. I think your pros outweigh the cons but if your heart isn’t into it, its not worth it. You need that family support more than anything in order to make the training runs work too. You have a great set up w/ 3 runs a week and bike option. If your goal is realistic – such as finishing and not worrying about time the ride of training might be more enjoyable. After my 1st marathon I said no more but then got the itch and did 2 more. Sure the training sucks at times but the race was awesome. I’m a slow and steady wins the race kind of gal too. So go with your heart and family decision. (or just do it and don’t think much about the pros and cons – which is why I did my 1st marathon).

  130. I think you should do it – my reason? I am going to be starting my training as you are finishing – I need to see someone else my age do it and prove it. My last was 5 years ago and I too said NEVER again – but we have grown more – our babes have grown more – and you have a free ride. NEVER turn down a free ride!
    Do it for me. πŸ™‚

  131. Total yay, Dimity! Not only should you run it, but I think I should go with you to keep you company…teehee…seriously, I LOVE the idea of a big race…my first love was Houston ON my 40th. That totally rocked. I just found out they are implementing a lottery system for the next one. I’ll have to have a Plan B. It appears that I won’t have a full on tap for this year. So, go for it, girl! What a phenomenal race. I think you should do it; train safely, run carefully, keep your eye on the finish line – that’s what you wanna do, right? Finish! You’ll have tons of support, I guaran-damn-tee you. Did I mention I think you should do it?

  132. I find that I sometimes regret the things I don’t do, but never the ones I do. Ok – that really just applies to after those things are done, not while I’m doing them.

    I’ll just answer selfishly and say that I’d love to read blogs about your experience preparing for the NYC marathon.

  133. I said never again after my last marathon and I’m still somehow signed up for a fall marathon this year — you should do it so that your training updates will be there to motivate me! Oh, and it would be good for you too of course πŸ™‚ There’s always the possibility of injury or of things not going smooothly, but don’t let that stop you — it will all seem worth it when you cross the finish line — even if you’ll probably be thinking “never again” as you cross it.

  134. I think you have to be committed 100% or you could face injury. Sometimes opportunities fall in our laps and we have to seize the moments. I say, Go for it!

  135. I say GO FOR IT. I think your “Yay” reasons far outweigh your “Nay” reasons. Personally, I’ve never run a marathon and only run one half-marathon back in 2004, in which I ended up with IT band tendinitis due to not following a good training plan (unless you call “fly by the seat of my pants” a good training plan). I’ve decided I am going to train for the Disney Princess Half Marathon and am trying desperately to convince my sister, who lives 5 states away from me, to run it with me. For me, what gives me the desire to do a big race is the atmosphere that awaits me. Knowing that there are crowds along the route cheering me on, music throughout the race, and in the case of the Princess Half, characters along the route for picture opps. I know that when my brain is telling my body to stop, there will be other distractions there at the race to give me the endorphins and adrenaline rush needed to push through that wall. I know what the Mini Marathon in 2004 was like, between spectators, music and other fun things (a bar on the route handing out free beer? Don’t mind if I do!… it was about a 1/2 C of beer), that kept me going even when my knee was screaming at me. I can only imagine that something as big as a NYC marathon will be on a bigger level, motivation-wise.

    So, after all my rambling, GO FOR IT!!

  136. I say a big fat YES!!!!! Your Pros really outweigh your Cons – I’m just seeing a lot of “what ifs” while you’ve listed out so many good reasons why you should! And what an amazing offer! I lived in NYC for 7 years and love the Marathon experience there (though I’ve never run it I have cheered mightily both friends and strangers!)

    Your post has made me stop and think about why I keep putting off a goal I’d really like to take on – a 1/2 marathon. I come up with a lot of “what ifs” too but I realize just now that I’d rather try than not and look back later and wonder…what if?

  137. You can do it! You just inspired me to sign up for my first marathon after reading RLAM! I convinced my husband to sign up with me- he’s a much more natural athlete, but I keep plugging away…

  138. Like the others above, your pros seem to outweigh the cons. The cons seem to be more borrowing trouble, as my grandmother used to say. I am picking at late this year/early next year marathon for my first at this time. I too worry about re-injuring some just healed injuries. The thing that tipped it to a yes for me was the desire to do it. Ultimately you have to be willing to take the risk. If you have the support of your family, I’d do it!

  139. This is a hard one. I’ve pondered this question since my last marathon in 2001 and have ended up doing 16 half marathons over the years because my heart just wasn’t in the full marathon for training, family time away, etc.

    So, even though I’d love to say JUST DO IT! I think that the decision ultimately should come from your heart and mind when you just know that you’re ready for the training commitment and joy of the 26.2 mile race.

    Good luck making your decision!

  140. Yes! Yes!! Yes!!! The pros definitely seem to outweigh the cons! I can’t even begin to tell you how excited I was to read your post – I am starting to train for the NY Marathon too and it’s my first one. I have a 3 and 4 year old, a husband changing jobs and live in Houston where it’s already 90 by 8AM and I totally feel like you in the fact that nothing makes me feel better than going running and crossing it off my list even if it’s the only thing that gets done that was planned for the day. I love reading RLAM and look forward to it always and think this post was a sign for me to not look back, keep running forward and make it happen. So I hope that you run it!!!

  141. there was so many times i wanted to quit training for my half this past month. the only reason i kept going was so many people expected me to finish. i told everyone through facebook and they all left me comments saying how wonderful it was that i had a goal in mind and i was going to accomplish it. i couldn’t let them down! their wonderful comments helped me break my goal of doing a half in under 2:30 (chip time- 2:23:49!).

  142. WOW! Dimity! What an awesome offer! I like all your pros and cons…but your pros stand out much more than your cons. Your cons are what if’s and your pro’s are solid thoughts and feelings. You can totally do it and it sounds like you really want to.

    No one says you have to PR or have any other record setting run…and I know your the non-competitive one (I would never say this to SBS :)) so run it for you and enjoy your self just do your best and forget the rest! and have fun doing it!

    (please don’t enter my name in the giveaway, I have already won)

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