I inadvertently hit pause on my running.
I ran the Essentia Health Fargo marathon in late September. Like a responsible runner, I took two weeks of rest. I know many runners whose rest weeks look surprisingly like an easy week on my training plan: casual, breezy walks, yoga, maybe even a slow run.
Not me. I Rest. Capital R. I sit on my couch. The extent of my recovery exercise is walking up and down stairs. It’s genuinely blissful after marathon training. It does not, however, lend itself to maintaining running fitness.

How Alana (and Dobby) spent the past few months
Case in point: I planned to sign up for a second marathon about six weeks after Fargo because I executed the race well and felt strong. Then I rested for another week. Not because I needed the rest but because I was so enjoying it.
After three weeks I tried a long run. Shockingly (she said sarcastically), it did not feel great. I expected, however, that I could dial in my consistency and get back to “good.” Turns out, I didn’t want to dial in anything. Instead, I did a couple of half-hearted easy runs mid-week and tried for a long run.
Thirteen miles in, I called Cute Husband to come pick me up and decided that said follow-up marathon was not happening. I expected the self-criticism to have a heyday. I waited for thoughts of laziness and lack of commitment to show up for afternoon tea and stick around for dinner.

The ill-fated 13 miles
But…that didn’t happen. I was floored. I mean, my self-judgement game is STRONG when it comes to my perception of how lazy I might be. Instead, my very accomplished brain congratulated me for listening. To my body. To my reservations. To my needs.
In late October, a friend who wanted to start running reached out. Did I want to run with her twice a week? It was the perfect way to ease back in and not worry about distance, time or racing. Twice a week. 30 minutes. Easy intervals. I enjoyed the pace. I loved the company. I committed to being a good ambassador of running. And I had no desire to do more.
We took a break for the winter holiday spree. Only now it’s early March and, guess what? That’s right. We’re still on a break. Again, I expect to feel lazy and judgy. Instead, I feel only a welcome reset.
The pandemic has gifted me with a remarkable opportunity to listen to what I need at any given time. When we first went into lockdown, I was working out multiple times a day. Getting outside helped me maintain my mental health. Live strength training with Dimity and the Many Happy Miles crew kept me connected. I ran an ultra-marathon over a 24-hour period. I ran more virtual races than I care to admit. I worked on my one-mile pace. I had my 5k PR during the OG Love the Run You’re With.
And, two years into it all, I trained for a marathon. All of that kept me moving forward, engaged, purposeful.
But, after scrapping marathon part deux, I realized I was spent. My body needed other things. My heart (not the literal one, the emotional one) needed a rest. My brain hurt all.of.the.time. I opened up my arms and embraced the down time with a bear hug.
However, movement is a core value of mine, and I am finding other ways to honor that. I completed the 30-day Move series by Yoga with Adriene and then kept the streak going. The daily time on the mat has allowed me to be actively in my body. I have seen the gains of flexibility and strength. I have spent more time listening for cues of what hurts and, more importantly, what doesn’t.
I very recently added in foundational strength and easy runs with longer intervals. Because, in three weeks, I will be at the NYC Half Marathon, where I’ll be running a ton of intervals. Or walking. Or not participating. It depends on what my body tells me.
And that’s perfect; I love this 50-year-old me who is comfortable with what is right now. I love knowing that the endurance and speed will come back in time. I love that listening to my coach taught me to know what I am capable of achieving. And I love that the world and my time in it have brought me to a different perspective on a start line. Lace up; it’s time.
I can’t tell you how much I love this. What a wonderful place to be. As always, you inspire me.
Thank you for sharing this! Love everything about it!❤️
I am striving for this myself. My marathon was in November and I have continued to work but in different ways. I am stuck on whether it is helping or hurting (emotionally). I appreciate you candor and this is something that definitely comes with time and perspective. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you so much for posting this! I too have been in pause mode, doing Yoga with Adriene and meditation, waiting for spring to awaken my running spirit and also trying to silence my inner critic that’s been saying “um, I thought you were a runner?” That inner critic can be harsh & I really appreciate your positive affirmation for pausing.
Thank you for sharing your story and where you are. I’ve run or run/walked 20 half marathons in the past 15 years and loved accomplishing each one! I wasn’t an althletic kid at all, but as an adult I have enjoyed regular exercise. In the past 18 months, I’ve lost my running urge and my BRFs don’t run anymore, so that doesn’t help. I do speedy walk a lot with friends and mix in yoga and strength each week. I run slowly and randomly here and there but I’m almost 52 and it’s frustrating that I can’t get myself back to consistent running. I miss getting lost in the rhythm of a long run and identifying myself as a runner. When I’m ready, I’ll do it again or maybe I won’t….but what I do know is that I will forever move in one way or another…for mind, body, and spirit. Thank you AMR for the incredible support and education you provide!
Love this story. At 51 y/o, I also am finally learning to listen to my body. It’s pretty smart and knows what it needs. Hugs Alana
My 51 yo self agrees with you whole heartedly. I am loving running because I just want to, not because I am training for anything. It is lovely to not have the pressure or expectations, and I am finding my love if the run again. Thank you for sharing.
I experienced this very same thing after my fall marathon. Thank you for putting words to what I have been struggling to make sense of!
I love this so much, Alana. It’s so hard to get caught up in the runner’s FOMO and ignore what our bodies are telling us. It’s so BADASS to listen. ❤️
Your trust in yourself comes through in how you’ve shared your story. Quite literally, I can feel it in the telling: the voice, the pace, the words. Thank you for letting us witness your recognition and reflection on this moment.
You are ever wise and I continue to learn from you. Being real feels like a rarity most days and I appreciate that you don’t spread the BS of perfection, go go go and ever greater training goals all the time. Not to say that urge for big goals is gone, but a pause is A-OK.
Alana, I appreciate you, your writing and your honesty so very much. And I look forward to walking, running, sitting or drinking coffee with you very soon ❤️
Alana, I appreciate you, your writing and your honesty so very much. And I look forward to walking, running, sitting or drinking coffee with you very soon ❤️
Thanks for sharing Alana. This is great.
Alana – This post comes to me on a day when I felt SO TIRED after my Friday swim workout, which I typically have been loving. Just walking upstairs to my bedroom after that had me almost out of breath, and I don’t know why. I’m supposed to start putting in miles to train for the Garry Bjorkland, and I’m really not feeling it. So, thank you for this reality check. I turned 53 in December, I think my commitment to races longer than 5Ks is waning. I’m trying to accept it and not feel “old”. I am determined to participate in the June event, but my “race” may be looking different than in the past. Trying to find the grace to accept that. If you are coming for Grandma, too, maybe we can run-walk it together!
thank you for sharing your story. as I’m turning 50 this year and also coming out of the two years of pandemic weirdness, I’m also struggling with wha t I think I need to do and what my body wants to do. it’s a constant conversation I have with myself. Also trying to stay healthy and fit for my younger kids and defying the historical lack of fitness and health of my mother and grandmother. You are inspiring!!
Alana, this speaks to me so much! I ran the Chicago marathon in October and was supposed to start a TLAM plan for the NYC half a month after my marathon…but I never did. I have been doing some longer runs once a week and I hope I can have a good day on 3/20. But I’m doing it for the experience (nothing like running the FDR Drive!) . I’m planning to enjoy the movement and not think about time or pace.